Sunday, April 09, 2006


All relationships pose some sort of risk. Will the person like me when they get to know me? Will they hurt me? Will they leave?

When there is a potential end in sight to a relationship, it is really hard to invest in that relationship. And yet, there is so much potential for gain that I can argue it is worth the risk.

Let me tell you about a friend of mine in college. We met in January, and she knew she was only going to finish the semester at my school. And yet, I swallowed the lump in my throat and kept moving with the friendship. It was not easy, but worth it. She was a special friend.

Then there's this fun couple R&T who moved to Colorado for a year between their Bachelors' degrees and R going to grad school. They knew coming in that this was a one year deal, and they let us all know. We share some great memories with them as they cut their first Christmas tree their first Christmas together.

We have friends who could move far away or just out of our regular circle of influence, but if relationships with a known end in sight can be worth the risk, than the ones whose end may or may not be imminent are worth it even more. They can be harder...even riskier...knowing you could get really close and have them gone...but I argue that whether they stay close friends or just become a part of your season of life, swallow hard and risk it!


At 10:48 PM, Blogger Than Brown said...

I couldn't agree more...all relationships have an inherent risk to them, but they also possess the potential to bring so much joy and meaning.

My own struggle is knowing when to make major life decisions based on those relationships rather than on career opportunities or significant life transitions. Should there be a point in which a commitment is made to certain friendships that, regardless of what may happen (i.e. with jobs or churches), you're sticking together? Like a commitment to live life out together, despite what opportunities or crises may this realistic, or just counter-intuitive?

At 1:11 PM, Blogger Sarah said...

Thank you for posting this.


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